November 29, 2019

Are You Addicted to Emotionally Unavailable Partners that Abuse and Abandon You?

Are You Addicted to Emotionally Unavailable Partners that Abuse and Abandon You?

Those of us who suffer from abandonment wounds are operating with a tremendous disadvantage. Many of us have never developed the capacity to differentiate between love and our feelings of longing and emotional hunger. In fact, the only time we Continue reading

October 23, 2016

An Open Letter to Men and Women Who Ghost

An Open Letter to Men and Women Who Ghost

Ghosting is the process of ending a romantic relationship by cutting off, blocking, or ignoring your former partner’s attempts to contact you. Ghosting can also happen with a friend or business associate. By ghosting someone, you’re ending a relationship without Continue reading

October 23, 2016

Ghosting: The Incredibly Heartless and Emotionally Immature Way to End a Relationship

Ghosting: The Incredibly Heartless and Emotionally Immature Way to End a Relationship

Life can be quite lonely at times. We may have our family, lots of acquaintances and a few close friends. We’re often separated by great distances from the people we care about. And some of us don’t feel especially close Continue reading

January 23, 2016

Can We Still Be Friends After The Breakup?

Can We Still Be Friends After The Breakup?
Katelynn shared during the introduction to one of my classes that she had been struggling to cope emotionally after a recent breakup. I asked her if she could tell us what brought about the dissolution of the relationship. She told us that significant differences in their needs and values were generating a lot of conflict. Her former partner left on short notice when he was offered a job in California. I asked Katelynn if she was making any effort to keep in touch with him. Katelynn told me that she found it too painful to keep in touch and so she stopped returning his calls.I had Katelynn close her eyes, begin to breathe softly and deeply and bring her former partner to the forefront of her awareness and then tell us how she was feeling. Katelynn said that she was feeling mildly depressed, isolated and numb. Katelynn later shared that she was missing her former partner and that she was experiencing a profound sense of emptiness combined with feelings of sadness and anger. She said that the whole experience left her wondering what she had done wrong. Continue reading