People would often show up in my classes when they were in the midst of a devastating breakup or divorce. Others were struggling with patterns of abandonment and unrequited love. Many of these individuals were deeply wounded, and I could see that they weren’t healing on their own. Those who worked with me individually were able to heal the deep emotional wounds, let go of toxic relationships, and move on. I could see them opening their hearts in a way that enabled them to love more deeply. I found it especially gratifying to see a number of them attracting healthier companions and co-creating more meaningful and fulfilling relationships.

So many people RSVP'd for the class but never showed up. From my experience working with thousands of individuals, I know that many of these people did not heal on their own. They missed out on a profoundly life-changing opportunity to heal, and as a result, they continued to harbor sadness, grief, feelings of betrayal and abandonment, and other painful emotions, confining themselves to a limited emotional space. Unfortunately, many of these individuals either clung to toxic relationships, continuing to perpetuate the same dysfunctional patterns or found themselves perpetually alone.

Many of the people who RSVP'd for my classes and didn’t show up probably just forgot. Some were intimidated by the prospect of facing their issues head on or felt tired after working all day and, therefore, didn't show up.

I have developed the ability to look into people's bodies and minds. I can see and feel their emotional states and the issues they're struggling with. I discern how individuals are emotionally wounded and can also pinpoint specific health-related issues affecting them. Whenever I sense into people's bodies and minds, I can identify areas of developmental deficit where crucial coping resources are lacking. Conversely, I can also recognize the resources and capabilities in individuals who are functioning at a higher level.

I typically scanned people's bodies and minds at the end of my classes. Many were greatly impressed by my accuracy and chose to work with me individually. Others, whom I encouraged to work with me, would respond with something along the lines of, “I'll think about it.” This always left me feeling disappointed, as I knew I could help these individuals heal their heartaches and reach a significantly better place in their lives. I also knew that many of them would likely never heal on their own.

I encouraged Carlos, a man in his early fifties whose much younger Dominican girlfriend had abruptly dumped him, to work with me. He told me, “I'll think about it.” I ran into Carlos on the subway in upper Manhattan months later. He was still suffering terribly. From having worked with so many other people, I knew that he could have healed and emerged feeling much lighter. However, Carlos failed to recognize and seize the opportunity to heal that was being offered to him. Consequently, he continued to suffer unnecessarily.

One of the primary challenges many individuals face is that they haven't learned to work constructively with their own emotional responses. When they experience heartache, such as a breakup, they often lack the understanding or capacity to fully process their emotional responses. Emotions like grief, sadness, and hurt that aren't thoroughly digested remain trapped within the body.

This inability to fully process their emotions hinders people from truly healing, letting go, and moving on in their lives. These undigested emotions often cause people to close off around their unhealed wounds, creating barriers that diminish their capacity to both give and receive love. Moreover, these unprocessed feelings often lead to a cycle of repeating dysfunctional patterns in their subsequent relationships.

If you're in the midst of a devastating breakup, struggling with patterns of abandonment and unrequited love or grieving the death of a loved one, it is so critically important for you to actually show up in-person. It's also essential that you utilize the most effective therapeutic interventions to facilitate the healing that you may not be able to fully achieve on your own.

I spent years training with Horace Daukei, one of the last surviving traditional doctors or medicine man among the Kiowa Tribe. The healing gifts I possess specifically address the emotional wounds resulting from breakups, divorces, and patterns of abandonment, rejection, and unrequited love. I serve as a conduit, allowing an extraordinarily powerful presence to work through me. This presence transforms breakups, other painful losses, traumatic events, and emotions such as sadness and grief, so they can be thoroughly digested and used as fuel for growth.

I’m one of the most capable individuals globally when it comes to facilitating the healing of these emotional wounds. This work is also highly effective in facilitating the healing of anxiety, depression, trauma and a wide range of health-related issues.

Native Americans were familiar with these types of healing gifts and worked extensively with their traditional doctors or medicine men. However, people in our modern world are not as familiar with these healing practices. Their understanding of what is possible in terms of healing is often limited. Consequently, many miss out on the opportunity to heal their wounded hearts and experience the transformation that would increase their capacity to love and be loved, and to attract a companion with whom they can co-create a deeply fulfilling relationship.

In my own journey of healing, I encountered many practices and therapeutic interventions that were completely unfamiliar to me. However, I always maintained an open mind and was willing to test any healing approach that held promise. Not everything I tried was successful. I let go of anything that didn't produce results, continuing to engage with the practices and interventions that proved most effective.

My mentor Horace, transmitted portions of his own healing gifts to me during my early twenties. He then had me go on the vision quest, a traditional Native American healing practice that involves going out to fast alone in the mountains for four days and nights without food or water.

I struggled with patterns of abandonment and unrequited love during my twenties. After some time I began to feel a strong pull to return to the Wichita Mountains to go on the vision quest.

Parts of the vision quest are in many ways like a near death experience. I would often experience a succession of imagery and emotion as the memories of past traumas and other wounding experiences flooded my awareness. I could feel a very powerful presence working to transmute the deeply imbedded impressions of past traumatic events and the painful emotions that have been held within my body. I could then feel the deeply entrenched patterns that had caused me to reenact the traumas of my past in my relationships dissolving. Newer and healthier models of attachment began to form in their place. As that happened, I began to attract healthier companions and co-create more meaningful and deeply fulfilling relationships.

It's through the many vision quests I've undergone that I have continued to progress along my own healing journey. As I continue to go, I receive additional gifts of healing. People who have the opportunity to work with me individually experience healing and transformation that is in many ways similar to what I go through during the vision quest.

Active participation and conscious commitment

Healing the deeply wounded parts of ourselves is a journey that requires active participation and conscious commitment. While it may seem easier to ignore or suppress the pain, the reality is that untreated emotional wounds often have significant, long-lasting impacts on our mental, emotional, and even physical health. Here's why it's so crucial for you to show up and actively engage in the healing process:

Unresolved emotional wounds can have physical manifestations. Chronic stress, anxiety, or depression, often associated with unresolved emotional pain, can lead to a range of health issues, like insomnia, heart disease, or a compromised immune system.

Emotional wounds left untended can result in persistent feelings of sadness, anxiety, anger, and a host of other mental health issues. Healing these wounds is essential for restoring your mental and emotional wellbeing, fostering self-esteem, and building resilience.

Healing your emotional wounds allows you to grow emotionally. You develop greater emotional intelligence and increase your self-awareness, along with your capacity for empathy and compassion for yourself and others.

Without employing the most powerful and effective healing interventions, you could easily find yourself reenacting harmful patterns in your relationships or attracting partners who reinforce these patterns. Engaging in the healing process will enable you to recognize and subsequently transform these patterns.

As you heal, you can establish healthier, more deeply fulfilling relationships. You break free from toxic relationships, create stronger emotional bonds, and experience more profound love and connection.

The process of healing the devastation of heartbreak and other deep emotional wounds involves deepening your awareness and understanding of yourself and others. Showing up for healing is about more than just relieving immediate pain; it's about investing in your long-term health and wellbeing. By doing so, you can transform yourself and your love life, transforming heartbreak and other deep emotional wounds into opportunities for personal growth and the creation of more meaningful and deeply fulfilling relationships.

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1. Click here to grab your free copy of my eBook – The Essentials Of Getting Over Your Breakup And Moving On
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