Although it's not always the case, I believe that most of our parents were doing the best they could with the understanding and resources they possessed. Yet, for many of us, our most basic needs for love, acceptance, acknowledgment and appreciation went unmet. Additionally, a significant number of us were subjected to some combination of verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse.

What exacerbated the situation was our lack of understanding and the necessary resources to process our genuine emotions. Since we had no way to process these experiences, we ended up internalizing them, along with our cognitive and emotional responses. We also internalized the lack of love and attention, the anger, aggression, harsh criticism, and other negativity directed at us. Further compounding matters, we often blamed ourselves, feeling that we were somehow at fault.

As children, many of us faced mistreatment at school from our peers, including name-calling, ostracization, and bullying. Sometimes, our teachers, who were supposed to be our guides and protectors, may not have always shown us the kindness and understanding or offered us the support and encouragement we needed. Being consistently chosen last for team activities can also significantly impact our self-esteem and sense of belonging. When these school-based interactions and adversities are compounded by the abuse and neglect we experience at home, the effect can be deeply damaging.

The absence of a safe, nurturing environment both at school and home can contribute to our feelings of worthlessness, isolation, and mistrust in others, hindering our emotional and social development. This dual source of distress amplifies the challenges we face as we grow from children into adults, particularly in forming healthy relationships and maintaining a positive self-image.

Navigating Love and Loss Along the Social Desirability Scale

Throughout our childhood, adolescence, and into our adult lives, we strive to connect with others, develop friendships, and meet our basic needs for acceptance and belonging. Some of us struggle because we lack social skills, finding it difficult to communicate effectively.

Most of us are forming romantic attachments by the time we're in our adolescence, and for some of us, it begins in our childhood. It's part of the normal process of maturation in order to meet our most basic human needs: to love and be loved. However, many of us face additional challenges if we are not perceived as physically attractive by societal standards, and if we are lacking crucial interpersonal skills, which can hinder our efforts to be accepted and establish meaningful connections. These challenges can significantly affect our social interactions and emotional well-being.

Men and women are wired differently and have their own criteria for evaluating what makes a suitable partner. While certain qualities are important, the mate selection criteria for both genders can sometimes be superficial.

We are all, to some degree, drawn to individuals whom we consider physically attractive. It's a known fact that men are often drawn to a woman's physical attributes and youth, sometimes either overlooking or undervaluing those qualities that determine if a woman has the capacity to be a compatible and supportive partner. Such qualities include intelligence—not just intellectual but also emotional—problem-solving skills, drive, ambition, and a commitment to personal growth and being her best self. The ability to engage in meaningful conversation is essential, as are qualities such as kindness, empathy, compassion, generosity, and a genuine concern for others. A partner should be loyal and trustworthy, someone you can depend on. A sense of humor, resilience, and the ability to face the challenges of daily life head-on and bounce back in the face of adversity are also critical.

Younger women, especially those considered to be physically attractive, tend to receive far more attention from men. Those who, in their younger years, received a lot of attention, often complain about becoming invisible as they grow older.

For women, socio-economic status can be a big determinant of a man's level of attraction. Consider the fact that on Tinder, women aged 23 to 27 are significantly more inclined to express interest in men with higher educational achievements, such as a master's degree over a bachelor's. In fact, women in this age range are twice as likely to swipe right (‘like') on a man with a master's degree compared to one with a bachelor's degree. Additionally, many women prefer to date men who are at least as tall as they are, if not taller, further narrowing the selection of potential partners.

So, what ends up happening is that you have a small number of ‘super high value' men and women at the top who have considerably more options, and can therefore afford to take others for granted, or use and discard them. That leaves a large group of men and women positioned at the lower end of the social desirability scale who do not feel desired by potential mates, feel invisible, and struggle to find love.

Love Life and the Lack Thereof

Our attempts to love and be loved obviously don't always work out as well as we would like for them to. Despite our profoundly deep longing for a partner and the extraordinary efforts we make, we may find it extraordinarily difficult to find someone, ending up spending many years of our lives alone. We may meet someone we're wanting to connect with, and yet that person doesn't return our calls. Or we start dating someone, and they flake out on us. In many instances, the person to whom we've grown attached or find ourselves attracted does not reciprocate our desires and may outright reject us. The person we've been seeing or who has been a part of our life for some time may break off the relationship or even ghost us. Or, we may discover that they have been unfaithful, or they may say and do all kinds of other hurtful things.

When these things happen, our self-esteem takes a hit and we often end up feeling even worse about ourselves. We may even feel as though we are somehow damaged and defective, if not completely unlovable. These kinds of emotional responses are far more common than most people realize. Moreover, many of us struggle to love or appreciate ourselves without external validation, as if the absence of love, acceptance, or appreciation from others somehow confirms our own unlovability.

Common Indicators of a Lack of Self Love

Self-love is the means through which we nurture ourselves, yet its absence can be terribly detrimental. How does a lack of self-love manifest in our lives? Here are some common indicators:

Perfectionism, fear of failure, and lack of tolerance for mistakes: Constantly berating ourselves, focusing on our perceived flaws, and engaging in negative self-talk can signify that we lack the capacity to love and feel compassion for ourselves.

Neglecting self-care and personal needs: When we lack the capacity to love ourselves, we tend to neglect our physical, emotional, and mental well-being. This could manifest as poor eating habits, inadequate sleep, or ignoring our emotional needs.

Tolerating toxic or abusive people and relationships: When we don't value ourselves, we're more likely to form attachments to individuals and stay in relationships that are detrimental to our well-being because we feel we don't deserve better.

Difficulty in saying ‘no' and a tendency to overcommit reflects the challenges in asserting our needs and maintaining personal boundaries when self-love is lacking.

Engaging in harmful comparisons with others: Negatively comparing ourselves to others can erode self-love and contribute to feelings of inadequacy.

Negative internal dialogue and constant self-criticism: Both are clear indicators of a deficiency in self-love, reflecting an inner struggle with self-acceptance.

Challenges in setting and maintaining healthy boundaries: Without self-love, it's difficult to assert our needs and set healthy boundaries.

Excessive need for validation and approval from others: A lack of self-love might drive us to constantly seek approval and validation from others, often sacrificing our own needs and happiness.

Avoidance of challenges due to fear of failure: Without self-love, the fear of failure can become overwhelming. We're more hesitant to take risks and to engage in new experiences or challenges because of our lack of confidence in our own abilities.

Engaging in self-sabotaging behaviors: These behaviors are a manifestation of a deeper struggle with self-worth and self-acceptance.

Persistent feelings of inadequacy and struggling to value oneself: Experiencing difficulty in accepting compliments or acknowledging our achievements can be indicative of a lack of self-love, reflecting a struggle to see our own value.

For many of us, acknowledging these indicators can be the first step towards nurturing a more loving and compassionate relationship with ourselves, paving the way for personal growth and healthier relationships.

The Courage to Feel: Reconnecting with Our Authentic Selves

As I mentioned previously, we all suffer in some way, whether it’s from our basic needs not being met, experiencing neglect, or being subjected to abuse. In addition to the hurts and losses we’ve endured, many of us deny, diminish, or distract ourselves from the difficult or painful realities of our lives, often by suppressing our authentic emotional responses. Far too many of us end up spending an inordinate amount of time on our phones, scrolling through our social media feeds. We might also self-medicate with food, alcohol, and other substances, or turn to pharmaceuticals to numb our feelings. In doing so—by denying, disconnecting from, or medicating away our feelings—we inadvertently reject the parts of ourselves that carry fear, hurt, grief, upset, and other distressing emotions. To heal, it is critically important for us to fully embrace our authentic emotional responses and the vulnerable parts of ourselves.

Those of us who struggle in our professional or love lives, or who do not possess the body type or other physical features considered attractive by our society, or lack the interpersonal skills that enable us to compensate, are more likely to experience feelings of inadequacy or of not measuring up. These feelings are often exacerbated when we compare ourselves to the sculpted bodies and seemingly picture-perfect lives depicted in our Instagram feed, ultimately leading us to feel even worse about ourselves.

In any country or society, whether traditional or modern, we encounter numerous aspects of our cultures that lack connection, awareness, understanding, and emotional intelligence. The fact that many of us are living in a state of disconnect, having numbed ourselves to our emotions and losing touch with our inner being, causes us to look outside ourselves in an attempt to find meaning, definition, direction, and purpose. This is clearly evidenced in our compulsive consumption of material goods and the waste we generate, as much of the world's population lives in a manner not sustainable for the planet.

Possessing such a limited understanding of our own bodies and minds, we spend much of our lives out of alignment with our authentic core and our most basic needs. Many of us have bought into the model of success presented to us, defined largely by career advancement and material acquisition. We're also told what our relationships should look like. And when we don't measure up and our lives don't follow the script, we end up feeling a profoundly deep sense of shame and inadequacy, as though we have somehow failed.

Even for those who do achieve the markers of success, there is, in many instances, a profound sense of emptiness. Unless we gain awareness, get in touch with, and find ways to connect with the core of our being and address our authentic needs, we can easily remain trapped in this self-defeating cycle.

The reason so many of us are not able to feel love, acceptance, appreciation, and compassion for ourselves, is that we've never learned to work constructively with our own emotional responses. And then we further compound the issue by all the things we do to numb ourselves and disconnect from our emotions.

As long as emotions such as anger, frustration, sadness, shame and feelings of unworthiness remain trapped witin our bodies, our limiting holding patterns will invariably perpetuate themselves. And when emotions such as anger get turned inwards, we have a tendency to punish ourselves.

Turning Within for Sustenance

We all have fundamental human needs for love, acceptance, validation, approval, and acknowledgment, as well as basic necessities like shelter, material comforts, and meaningful employment that sustains us. Yet, external sources are never guaranteed. We can easily lose the people we love, our home, source of income, our health, and physical beauty. While it's important to cultivate meaningful relationships and achieve financial security, it's equally crucial for us to turn inward for love, validation, and the strength to persevere.

Learning From Our Mistakes

Many of us, having internalized the standards, values, and expectations of our parents, peers, and the larger society, expect a lot of ourselves. We believe we have to get it right, and we can be harshly critical of ourselves when we fail to live up to our expectations. The problem with being so hard on ourselves is that it exacerbates our existing emotional wounds, preventing us from healing while further impeding our performance.

Making mistakes, an inevitable part of being human, can cause us a lot of embarrassment and can be quite painful at times. It can also cause us to doubt ourselves, and yet mistakes can also provides us with valuable learning experiences that we would otherwise miss out on.

Instead of viewing mistakes as failures, it's important for us to adopt the perspective that mistakes are an essential part of being human that provides us with the opportunities we need to learn and grow. It's through making and learning from our mistakes that we gain new perspectives, develop new skills, and progress in our lives.

Even though it may not seem like it at the time, making and then learning from our mistakes is a part of the process that brings us closer to attaining our goals. It also helps us to become more open-minded and flexible when we're faced with unfamiliar and challenging issues and situations. As we continue to apply ourselves, we become more adept at navigating the different aspects of our life experiences.

When parenting or mentoring a child, you understand the child hasn't had as much experience as you, and therefore, you demonstrate patience and understanding as you guide them. Some of us will need to parent or mentor ourselves. It's best to adopt a more understanding and compassionate attitude toward ourselves. Accept the fact that life is a learning process and assume that you're going to be making mistakes along the way. As you commit to learning from your mistakes and doing better, you'll develop not only greater proficiency, but also a deeper appreciation for yourself.

Letting Go of Unhealthy Attachments

When we remain in relationships with people who continue to say and do things that cause a lot of hurt, the painful emotions that we feel in response to their words and actions accumulate within our bodies. As we thoroughly ‘digest' our lived experiences, including those turbulent relationships along with our subsequent emotional responses, the wounded parts of us heal. As that happens, we begin to experience greater love and appreciation for ourselves.

As we heal and evolve, we invariably outgrow the dysfunctional people and relationships that once played a part in our lives. We'll find the strength to either reduce our involvement with or sever ties with those who bring pain into our lives or generate other kinds of toxic drama. Connections with people we've outgrown or no longer resonate with will naturally dissolve. As this happens, we'll find ourselves drawn to and attracting individuals who are kinder, more caring, and compassionate. We'll also begin to develop more meaningful and deeply fulfilling relationships that actually nurture us.

Self-Love: Isn't That Being Self-Absorbed or Narcissistic?

Many of us are resistant to even the thought of self-love, either feeling that we're not worthy or deserving, or fearing that it is in some way self-absorbed or narcissistic. It can also feel oddly uncomfortable initially. Yet, self-love is a crucial aspect of learning to care for ourselves, and without it, we're more likely to neglect our needs, engage in self-sabotaging thoughts that tear us down, and act in ways that cause self-harm.

The Capacity to Truly Care for Ourselves

It can be really difficult to care for ourselves when we're holding lots of stress, hurt, anger, sadness, and other distressing emotions within our bodies. We're far more likely to self-medicate with alcohol and other recreational drugs, eat unhealthy foods, and fall into other self-destructive habits.

As we take steps to heal, actively ‘digesting' the distressing emotions, our love, acceptance, and appreciation for ourselves grows stronger. As that happens, the need for numbing agents like tobacco and alcohol lessens. We may notice that we feel repulsed by the kinds of unhealthy foods we had previously consumed. And we naturally find ourselves desiring the kinds of foods that nourish our bodies.

As our love and appreciation for ourselves deepens, we develop the capacity to attend to our own needs, setting clear boundaries that safeguard our well-being. This journey leads us to a place of acceptance, where we can come to terms with past mistakes. As our appreciation, love and compassion for ourselves increases, we naturally experience a growing sense of joy and well-being welling up from within.

When we are able to be present to all aspects of ourselves — and accept our strengths and vulnerabilities — with compassion and appreciation, we naturally become more empathetic towards other people. We understand and connect with their experiences, seeing beyond the surface to perceive and feel what they're going through emotionally and understand the challenges they're facing in their own lives. That makes it possible for us to experience deeper and more meaningful connections.

Withstanding the Challenges of Daily Life

As our capacity to love and appreciate ourselves grows, we're better able to face the challenges of daily life. This journey of self-love and appreciation is not merely about feeling good in the moment; it's a profound transformation that affects every aspect of our existence. As we commit to being our best selves, we unlock a deeper sense of purpose and direction. Our confidence in our own capabilities grows, fueling a positive cycle of self-belief and action. This isn’t just about adopting a positive view of ourselves—it’s about grounding that positivity in the reality of our actions and their impact on the world around us.

This increase in trust and faith in our own abilities is pivotal, in that it transforms the way we approach life's hurdles, turning daunting obstacles into manageable challenges. It makes it easier for us to set ambitious goals for ourselves, not as distant dreams, but as achievable milestones. With each goal reached, our self-efficacy is further reinforced, encouraging us to aim even higher.

This growth in self-love and efficacy does more than just enhance our individual experiences. It radiates outward, influencing our relationships and the broader community. We become a source of inspiration and support for others, showing by example how to navigate life's ups and downs with grace and resilience. In essence, as we learn to navigate our inner landscapes with love and appreciation, we equip ourselves with the tools needed not just to survive but to thrive, laying the foundation for a life that is not only fulfilling but also enriching for those around us.

Becoming more Discerning

A crucial part of self-love is knowing what to invest our time and energy in — and what doesn’t serve us. This discernment requires a deep understanding of our values, desires, and boundaries. It means actively choosing activities, relationships, and pursuits that align with our highest good, and gracefully stepping away from those that drain our spirit or detract from our well-being. By focusing our efforts on what truly nourishes and enriches us, we honor our worth and cultivate a life filled with more joy, fulfillment, and a sense of wellbeing.

This process of selection isn’t just about avoidance or self-absorption; it's about making empowered choices that reinforce our sense of appreciation and value for ourselves. Embracing this aspect of self-love empowers us to create a more intentional and authentic life, where our energies are invested in what genuinely supports our growth and happiness.

Establishing Clear Boundaries

Those of us lacking self-love often struggle to feel worthy or deserving, often failing to recognize or meet our needs, and if we do, we often attempt to justify them. That's why it's crucial for us to work towards establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries, which serve as a protective barrier safeguarding our well-being and preserving our time and energy. By clearly defining and communicating our limits to others, we create the space needed to care for ourselves.

It's important for us to be mindful of our personal space and emotional boundaries. Sometimes that entails identifying the situations, individuals, relationships, and activities that drain our time and energy and compromise our well-being. As we become more cognizant of our needs, we take intentional steps to set boundaries. This may involve verbally asserting our needs, saying no when necessary, and in some instances, creating physical and emotional space.

Maintaining boundaries requires consistency and self-advocacy. We need to be firm in asserting the limits we've established, even though it feels uncomfortable at times. Recognizing and prioritizing our well-being is an essential act of self-love. However, in certain instances or situations, particularly when someone is facing a genuine need or crisis, flexibility serves everyone's best interest. This is where intuition and emotional intelligence play crucial roles.

It's crucial for us to be selective about the people we allow into our lives, letting go of those who repeatedly drain and stress us out and generate toxic drama, while surrounding ourselves with individuals who support and encourage us. Healthy relationships thrive on mutual understanding and consideration of each other's needs. By reinforcing our boundaries, we cultivate a nurturing environment that is more condusive for our wellbeing.

Permission to Be Our Authentic Selves

Many of us, at times in our lives, are faced with enormous pressure to conform. The problem with conforming to other people's expectations of who and what we think we should be, is that we're not being authentic. It's important for us to identify the qualities that make us unique and to embrace and appreciate them. Affirming our individuality by expressing ourselves authentically, in the way we think, feel and communicate and how we show up in the world enables us to become more fully embodied.

Additionally, in embracing and expressing our individuality, it's crucial to do so with mindfulness and respect for others. We must ensure that our expression does not come at the expense of others' feelings or rights, maintaining a balance where our authenticity does not infringe upon the well-being or boundaries of those around us.

Passion as a Practice: Cultivating Authenticity in Everyday Life

A crucial part of self-love is doing the things we truly love to do. It’s about diving into our passions, whether that’s creating visual art, composing music, dancing, rock climbing, working to bring about meaningful change in our world, or just enjoying moments of stillness. It’s not merely about filling time, but a continuous act of nurturing our bodies and inner selves as a way to replenish and reconnect with our authentic core. When we engage with what we genuinely love, we're tapping into our true essence, bridging the gap between our inner world and actions, creating a more substantive and meaningful life.

Normalizing Self-Care

It's important for us to make a concerted effort to normalize self-care in our daily routine. Incorporate habits that nourish both body and soul, such as choosing nutrient-rich foods and engaging in physical activities like walking, running, yoga, martial arts, or workouts, and a daily meditation practice. Spend time with friends, family, your children, or intimate partner, and engaging in crucial conversations to address the issues as they arise and to deepen these essential connections. Prioritizing getting to sleep at a reasonable hour is also crucial. Beyond these daily practices, it's important for us to commit to larger acts of self-care. That may involve taking time off periodically, go on retreats, or travel to places where we feel a deep connection, spending time with people with whom we most resonate. All these actions contribute significantly to our physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being.

Transforming Self-Loathing

Those of us who endured abuse during childhood and/or adolescence, particularly if these traumas have been reenacted in our adult relationships or if we've faced recurring heartaches, are prone to experiencing feelings of disgust or self-loathing. Some of us resist these feelings by attempting to block them out of our awareness, while others, holding a self-depreciating mindset, may seethe with feelings of contempt for themselves. Either way can be highly destructive.

For many, self-deprecating thoughts, to some extent, are conscious, although many operate from the subconscious mind and are held within the body. These thought processes are driven by the emotions held within the body, such as feelings of disgust or anger toward oneself.

When we're carrying these deep emotional wounds, we're far more likely to attract people into our lives who mistreat us and find ourselves in situations that elicit more of the same kinds of painful feelings. The hurt and other painful emotions we experience as a result of being mistreated and our lives not working will, in many instances, reinforce the feelings of contempt for ourselves, along with our negative self-perception.

Some attempt to cope by adopting a “positive” mindset, possibly repeating affirmations to themselves. The problem with relying on this approach is that it doesn't heal the underlying emotional wounds. As the saying goes, “You have to feel it to heal it.”

Having feelings of anger, disgust, contempt, and loathing for oneself surface can take us into some incredibly dark and destructive spaces within ourselves. And yet, we need to be able to allow ourselves to feel our authentic emotional responses. Fully experiencing our emotions in these instances while breathing softly and deeply is a critically important part of processing these emotions.

I had to make a very concerted effort to be fully present with these emotions when they made their way to the surface, by breathing from their depths, yet practice alone wasn't enough. By combining therapeutic interventions such as the sessions I did with gifted healers and the vision quest, I could feel a powerful presence working within, transmuting these emotions and the deeply wounded parts of myself. As that happened, I was able to experience greater love, acceptance, and appreciation for myself.

The vision quest is too intense for most people, and yet those who have the opportunity to work with me individually experience the same kind of transformation within their bodies and minds. As the deeply wounded parts of you are transformed, your love and compassion for yourself will invariably grow.

Letting the Love and Appreciation In

Many of us have inadvertently constructed a form of armoring around us, where we've walled ourselves off. The venomous darts of criticism have a way of piercing our armor, yet praise and compliments are more likely to be deflected—we simply don't let them in. This isn't surprising, considering that when we struggle to love or appreciate ourselves, it becomes that much harder to allow anyone else to offer us that love and appreciation.

Becoming receptive to the kindness and appreciation of others requires mindful effort on our part. For many of us, it means becoming more aware of the moments we tense up, feeling the layers of armor we've encased ourselves in, and then intentionally softening to allow ourselves to become more accepting. It's about literally absorbing the praise and compliments, the acknowledgments and appreciation from others, and even their love, into our body and mind. As we embrace the kind words, acts of consideration, and the feelings of appreciation and love that we receive from others, it becomes a form of nourishment that feeds our body and soul and softens our self-imposed barriers.

This process is not going to happen instantaneously, and it may feel quite foreign and uncomfortable at times. This discomfort arises because we've become so accustomed to the holding patterns in which we've lived our lives. However, with continuing practice, we can learn to accept and internalize the love and appreciation directed towards us, thereby increasing our own capacity to appreciate and love ourselves.

Putting Self-Love into Action

Cultivating self-love is a deeply transformative process that involves intentional practices and mindset shifts. Here are some of the most important steps you can take to nurture self-love:

Practice self-compassion by intentionally treating yourself with kindness and understanding, especially at times when you've made mistakes, haven't succeeded at what you were attempting to do or things haven't quite worked out the way you've wanted them to. Speak to yourself as you would to a friend you care deeply about with empathy and compassion.

Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is a fundamental act of self-respect and love. Set healthy boundaries by learning to say “no” to demands on your time and energy that don't align with your well-being or values.

Whether it's through exercise, meditation, making healthy food choices, creative persuits, or getting sufficient rest, self-care is essential for your well-being. Prioritize healthy habits and activities that nourish your body, mind, and spirit.

Cultivating mindfulness by being present and fully engaged in the current moment can help reduce negative self-talk and anxiety. Practices like meditation and mindful breathing increase self-awareness and promote a peaceful mind.

Acknowledge and appreciate yourself by recognizing the struggles you've faced, the effort you've made, along with your achievements, strengths, and qualities. Celebrating your successes, no matter how small, can deepen your appreciation for yourself and the journey.

Processing any feelings of regret, frustration or anger you hold towards yourself will help you to come to terms with past mistakes and learn from them instead of letting them define you. This process of coming to terms is crucial for moving forward and preventing self-sabotage.

Surround yourself with supportive influences by cultivating relationships with people who nourish and support you. Spending time around loving and encouraging individuals reinforces your positive self-perceptions.

Challenge negative thoughts by becoming aware of your own critical inner dialogue and then reframe these thoughts so they take on a more positive and supportive meaning.

Pursue personal growth by setting goals that align with your interests and values. Personal development not only encourages a sense of accomplishment, but also enhances self-love.

Taking time to reflect on and appreciate the good in your life helps to shift the focus from what is lacking or doesn't seem to be working to what is abundant and to what you're capable of, encouraging a positive mindset.

Invest in yourself through intensive daily practices, such as Chi Gong or meditation, to deepen your connection with your innermost being and the higher power, thereby building a strong internal foundation. Also, consistently utilize the most effective therapeutic interventions. For some, this may entail working with a therapist, or you might incorporate other interventions such as deep tissue bodywork or sessions with gifted healers.

Keep in mind that cultivating self-love is an ongoing process that requires patience, effort, commitment, and consistency. By integrating these practices into your daily life, you can build a stronger foundation of acceptance, appreciation, compassion, and love for yourself, improving your overall well-being and encouraging healthier relationships.

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