Many of us have internalized the traumas and other deeply wounding experiences of our childhood and adolescence, which can have a disastrous impact on our relationships. The emotional wounding from the traumas of my childhood and adolescence, along with the dysfunctional relational dynamics in my family of origin, played a big part in my forming unhealthy attachments to women who were often not a good match for me. There was a lot of projection on my part, sometimes manifesting as neediness, insecurity, unhealthy vulnerability, and fears of abandonment, which often felt imminent. This was not attractive to women and, in some instances, pushed them away or caused them to run in the other direction.

I wanted so much to have someone in my life that I could love and be loved by—someone with whom I could feel safe, who wouldn't jerk me around by playing emotional games, say or do hurtful things, ghost, or abandon me. However, it didn't work like that. I had to heal the emotional wounding on my own. Only then did the quality of my relationships improve. The unhealthy attachments I had formed began to dissolve, and I started to feel more secure in myself. My sense of well-being was no longer dependent on the women I had formed attachments to. I didn't care as much and could easily let go. I could feel my connection to the authentic core within me growing stronger, along with an increasing sense of lightness and ease. As I went through these changes, the relational dynamics changed as well. I found it easier to connect and my relationships became more balanced.

Noticing the Differences

As I've the taken steps to facilitate healing and to develop my body and mind, I have become acutely aware of the differences in the way people respond to me. Paying attention to these differences has been a crucial part of my journey. I can sense shifts in the energy and relational dynamics, with people tending to respond more positively, showing more interest and warmth. There is a noticeable increase in the depth and quality of my interactions. More people are drawn to me and are more open to engage in conversation, share their thoughts, reveal their concerns, and connect on a deeper level.

As I've progressed, I'm more present, able to listen more intently, and respond more authentically. This authenticity resonates with others, creating a more genuine and meaningful connection. This is partly the result of my internal state of being radiating outward, influencing the dynamics of my relationships. These observations reaffirm the importance of continuing to do the practices and make use of the therapeutic interventions that have facilitated my healing and growth. It’s not only enhancing my own life but also positively impacting the lives of those around me.

Location Makes a Difference

Location can make a profound difference. I notice differences in the ways people respond to me when I'm in New York City, although I often feel those differences are negligible. That has a lot to do with the fact that people in the city are on sensory overload, being surrounded by millions of other people and having too much input to process. The incessant noise and sheer volume of interactions all contribute to an environment where people are more guarded and less open to genuine connection. It's as if the city's energy creates a barrier that makes it harder for people to truly see and respond to one another.

Conversely, when I'm in other parts of the United States and other parts of the world without the constant barrage of sensory input, where the pace is slower and people are more relaxed and open, people have more mental and emotional bandwidth to engage. I notice people are more drawn to me and far more responsive. I experience a lot more openness and warmth; connections feel more intimate, and friends want me to stay longer.

Dissociation and Presence

One major factor that can make people less attractive is dissociation. When you're dissociated, you lack presence and vitality because you are not fully inhabiting your body. In other words, you are not truly present.

Dissociation can occur for various reasons. If we were neglected as children or lacked healthy stimulation, there wasn't much incentive for us to be present in our bodies. If we were subjected to emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, or a combination of these, we may have become dissociated as a result of the trauma. Even in the absence of trauma or neglect, some of us never fully inhabit our bodies. Our tendency to numb ourselves to our emotions causes us to disconnect from parts of ourselves, including our physical bodies.

Much of the population isn't all that present in their bodies. Our parents weren't very embodied, and neither were other family members, friends, or people in the community. As a result, we had no one to model what it's like to be more present in our bodies, leaving us without a frame of reference for embodiment.

Our religions taught us to deny ourselves, instilling the concept of sin and telling us that our sexuality is somehow shameful or of the devil. That messaging has a powerful effect on our psyche, leading us to reject parts of ourselves and making us less embodied.

Many people only inhabit their bodies from the diaphragm up or from the throat up. There's a lack of presence and, in many instances, a great deal of stagnation within the abdomen.

Conversely, people who have a strong presence are generally considered to be more attractive. Consider actors and rock stars, who have a commanding stage presence that captivates audiences. The praise and attention they receive builds their confidence, further enhancing their attractiveness. Athletes, too, embody presence. Through physical activity, they become more in tune with their bodies, developing a physicality that others find attractive.

Increasing Presence

I was fairly dissociated in my teens and twenties, a lot of that resulting from the traumas of my own childhood and adolescence and having internalized the messaging about sexuality being shameful. I could also be very shy and inhibited at times. The question often in my mind was, “How do I become more fully embodied?”

When I felt shy or uncomfortable in certain situations, I would breathe into the shyness and social anxiety I was experiencing in the moment, often while in the midst of an interaction, whether I was engaging with a woman I was attracted to or discussing the possibility of doing an interview with a radio host. As the shyness, social anxiety, and other inhibitions dissipated, I could feel more of myself becoming present in my body and in that time and space.

As my sensitivity and self-awareness increased, I became more cognizant of the ways I would withdraw or contract in certain situations, and how that prevented me from being fully present. Through intention, I would will myself to become more engaged in my interactions. I would feel more of my presence showing up in the moment, more of me engaging with people and situations. I did this partly by becoming more aware of what I was feeling emotionally, the physical sensations in my body, and sensing what I could feel from the other person or people involved or my immediate environment. I would visualize my presence expanding, filling more space, and energetically project more of myself outward so my presence occupied more of the space around me. I would also adjust my posture, standing or sitting straighter, uncrossing my arms and legs, placing my feet flat on the floor, and occupying more physical space.

Heartbreak: Pain Trapped in the Body

Breakups, divorces, abandonment, unrequited love, and being cheated on can all be quite painful, especially for those of us who have suffered repeated losses. Many of us, not knowing how to deal with these painful emotions, tend to avoid, suppress, or find ways to distract ourselves from the pain. We may self-medicate with alcohol and other recreational drugs or go on antidepressants to numb ourselves to the pain.

When emotions are in the acute stage, such as during the midst of a breakup or some other heart-wrenching drama, they can feel overwhelming. As time passes, those feelings will lessen in intensity, but they still linger. While the intensity of these emotions diminishes over time, it doesn't mean they have healed. Those painful emotions never just go away; they remain trapped within our bodies, creating a deadening effect that forms barriers and diminishes our capacity to love and be loved.

Taking steps to heal and digest the painful relational dramas we've gone through, and all the emotions attached to them opens your heart in a way that greatly increases your capacity to love and be loved. It also enables you to develop a more attractive presence as the barriers formed by suppressed pain begin to dissolve.

The meditation practices I developed to facilitate the healing of these heartaches can be especially helpful. Start by picturing the person who has hurt you, the one you were in a relationship with, who ghosted you, or who didn't reciprocate your desires. Notice what you're feeling in response to seeing this person and your interactions with them. Breathe softly and deeply as you center your awareness in the depths of these feelings and sensations. The feelings and sensations will go through a series of changes. Emotions such as sadness, grief, rejection, or loss may initially intensify but will usually soften in time as you continue to breathe into them. Follow the feelings and sensations as they go through their progression.

Being Authentic

We come into this world vulnerable, completely dependent upon our parents or caregivers for our basic needs: to be fed, to be loved, and to be cared for. Our parents or caregivers don't necessarily understand themselves all that well, and yet we internalize many of their beliefs and values. We may hide our own emotional responses and parts of ourselves if they are not deemed acceptable.

As we grow through childhood and adolescence, we struggle to make sense of the world we find ourselves in, looking for acceptance and validation from our peer group. If we feel hurt, afraid, or insecure, we may not really have anyone we can open up to and honestly express ourselves to, so we learn to maintain appearances, present an image, and hide our true feelings and the wounded parts of ourselves.

The problem is that we're not taught how to work effectively with our own emotional responses, which prevents us from resolving internal conflicts, healing the wounded parts of ourselves, learning from our experiences, and growing. Consequently, we carry the deep emotional wounds because we don't know how to heal them. Our emotional wounding is reflected back to us in our relationships. Matters are further compounded by these deficits that impede our ability to be authentic, share our true thoughts and feelings, work through and resolve conflicts, and repair ruptures to deepen our connections.

Healing starts with ourselves, facing the issues to the best of our ability, and being able to feel and breathe into—thoroughly digest—our authentic emotional responses. As we develop this capacity, we start to build a healthier foundation within ourselves. We develop greater self-awareness, understand ourselves better, become more in touch with and better equipped to address our own needs, and experience greater clarity, which enables us to be more authentic.

We then bring these skills and capacities into our relationships, becoming able to be vulnerable and honestly expressing what we're truly thinking and feeling. We're able to work through and resolve issues, deepening and strengthening connections, and are able to co-create more meaningful and fulfilling relationships.

Building Chi

One of the unfortunate consequences of our use of distractive technologies, like smartphones and social media is our ever-shortening attention span. It has only gotten worse with shorts, reels, and TikToks, leading to an inability to focus our attention for any significant length of time. Many people have unrealistic expectations and look for instant gratification. When that doesn't happen, they become impatient, frustrated, and give up.

I'm fortunate to have had the opportunity to train with Chinese Master Shifu Li Tai Liang in the internal martial arts of Xin Yi Quan and Baguazhang. Shifu, following the tradition of those who had attained mastery over the centuries, often reinforced the concept of building chi—the life force in one's body. In these traditions, one performs hours of repetitions of the chi gong practices daily over the course of their lives.

Patience is critically important here. We need to understand that this is not a quick fix, it's an ongoing process. For this reason, I apply the same principles I learned while training with Shifu. I devote a great deal of time to intensive daily practice and make use of the most powerful interventions to facilitate my continued healing and growth, increasing my presence and capabilities.

Mind-Body Practices: Yoga and Chi Gong

Yoga, originating in India and Chi Gong, developed in China, go beyond mere physical exercise; they are ancient disciplines that integrate the body, mind, and spirit. Daily practice enables you to cultivate a profound sense of wellbeing. The slow, deliberate movements and controlled breathing techniques help to calm the mind and reduce stress.

These practices also enhance your body’s energy flow. In yoga, the postures, known as asanas, stretch and strengthen the muscles while improving flexibility and circulation. Chi Gong focuses on the cultivation and balance of chi (life energy) through specific movements, breathing exercises, and meditation. Together, these practices stimulate the flow of life force throughout your body, revitalizing your organs and systems.

As you become more attuned to your body and its sensations, you develop greater self-awareness. This heightened awareness allows you to be more present in your interactions with others. Your movements become more graceful and deliberate, and you exude a natural confidence that is incredibly appealing.

Moreover, the physical benefits of yoga and Chi Gong contribute to a healthier, more vibrant appearance. Improved posture, increased flexibility, and enhanced muscle tone all add to your overall attractiveness. The inner glow that comes from reduced stress and balanced energy levels radiates outward, making you more approachable and magnetic.

Practicing yoga and Chi Gong not only facilitates physical health but also cultivates a serene and powerful presence. This combination of inner and outer well-being makes you more attractive to others, as they are naturally drawn to your calm, centered, and radiant presence.

Cleansing Your Body and Mind of Stagnation

Many people's physical and subtle bodies contain a great deal of stagnation. This stagnation is composed of the physical toxins that accumulate as a result of diet, medications, smoking, alcohol consumption, and psych meds, as well as the accumulated stresses of daily life and suppressed emotions. All of this combines to create a very heavy, stagnant presence. This stagnation creates barriers between yourself and others. It doesn’t feel good, and it also makes you less attractive.

To clean up the stagnation, start by cleaning up your diet. Stop smoking, drinking, and using other recreational drugs. If you're able, reduce the dosage or get off antidepressants and other psych meds. Learn to work effectively with your emotions. Practices such as meditation, Chi Gong, and yoga can help. Juice and water fasting and therapeutic interventions such as deep tissue massage and sessions with gifted healers will also clean up the stagnation.

Emotional Intelligence

Whenever we're suppressing our authentic emotional responses, we're disconnecting from parts of ourselves. The emotions we suppress create a heavy, stagnant presence that accumulates over time. This stagnant presence makes us less attractive. The parts of ourselves we're disconnecting from are reflected in the barriers that are created between ourselves and other people.

By learning to work effectively with our emotions, we're able to heal the wounded parts of ourselves and transform, diffuse, and digest the hurt, sadness, fear, and grief so that they become fuel for growth. As we learn to digest and find healthy expressions for our emotions, it helps us reconnect with ourselves and deepen our connections with others. We develop a more open, attractive and nurturing presence.

Heart and Lungs

People are not always kind and can be oblivious to, and even grossly insensitive to, the needs and considerations of others. They may also intentionally say or do hurtful things. Consequently, many of us hold a lot of sadness, grief, hurt, disappointment, anger, resentment, and feelings of betrayal that we haven't processed in our bodies. Much of this emotion remains trapped in our chest cavities, where our hearts and lungs reside.

Stress and distressing emotions can also cause muscle tension, including in the muscles used for breathing. This tension can lead to a sensation of tightness in the chest and difficulty taking deep breaths. Anxiety and stress can lead to rapid, shallow breathing or hyperventilation, causing feelings of dizziness, lightheadedness, and shortness of breath. Emotional pain and stress can lead to increased blood pressure and heart rate, putting additional strain on the heart and increasing the risk of cardiovascular problems. Chronic stress and emotional pain can lead to inflammation in the body, including the cardiovascular system, contributing to heart disease. Additionally, chronic emotional pain can weaken the immune system, making the body more susceptible to illnesses that can indirectly affect heart health.

I felt a profound sense of deadness in my heart years ago while living in New Mexico when an ex-girlfriend severed the connection because her then-fiancé told her, “If you have to be friends with your ex, I will leave you.” I started breathing with my awareness centered in my chest cavity during my late evening drives from Santa Fe to Albuquerque.

At first, I didn't feel much of anything other than faint vapors of feeling. As I continued to breathe with my awareness centered in the depth of my chest cavity, feelings of longing, loneliness, and sadness began to pour out of my chest. As the weeks progressed, there were times when it felt as though my whole chest cavity was aching. After that cleared, I felt a profound sense of euphoria and connectedness to a higher power. As I continued to work with this practice, it felt as though it were dissolving barriers that had previously prevented me from connecting. I couldn't help but notice that more people were drawn to me.

To create this opening to increase your capacity to love and be loved, start by breathing softly and deeply while centering your awareness in the depths of your chest cavity. Breathe into any feelings or sensations that arise. The feelings may be subtle at first. At times, you may feel numb or a sense of flatness. Breathe into whatever you're able to feel. If any emotions surface, allow them. Breathe into whatever you're feeling—sadness, grief, disappointment, anger, hurt. The feelings may initially grow stronger and will often go through a progression—anger may turn to sadness, and sadness to acceptance. As that happens, you may find yourself letting go of a person, situation, or outcome, or gaining valuable insights that will enable you to better address matters that need to be dealt with. Stronger unpleasant emotions, even if they intensify initially, will dissipate in intensity as you continue to breathe into them. I encourage you to focus on the feelings and sensations within the chest cavity for at least a month, preferably a few months or longer.

Grounding Through the Abdomen

Our culture places so much emphasis on the heart and being open-hearted. While keeping an open heart is important, the deepest level of bonding occurs within the abdominal region. It's here that we experience empathy and a visceral presence, which makes us want to be physically intimate.

The Enteric Nervous System (ENS) is a complex network of neurons lining the digestive tract that governs the function of the gastrointestinal system. It produces neurotransmitters such as dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine and is intricately connected to the central nervous system, enabling bidirectional communication between the gut and the brain. The ENS plays a crucial role in mind-body intelligence, cognition, and instinct. Working with the practice I'm about to teaching you in this section will activate your Enteric Nervous System.

When you bring your awareness to the abdomen, you tap into a vast reservoir of emotions and sensations. Start by noticing any feelings or sensations within the abdomen. Breathe softly and deeply as you fully immerse your awareness in these feelings and bodily sensations. This might include feelings of warmth or tension. By focusing on these sensations, you are not only becoming more in tune with your body but also grounding yourself more deeply in your physical presence.

Some people may not initially experience much feeling or sensation within the abdomen. This happens because so many of us have learned over the course of our lives to numb ourselves emotionally and disconnect from this part of our body. Even if feelings and sensations are very faint initially—a sense of flatness, heaviness, or numbness—as you continue with the practice, feelings and sensations will gradually become more vivid. As that happens, you'll be awakening this part of your body.

As you continue to follow these sensations, they will go through a progression. Initially, you might feel discomfort or tension, but as you breathe and stay present with these feelings, they will go through a transformation. This practice draws more of your presence down into your body, anchoring you in a more visceral, grounded state.

Developing this visceral presence enhances your ability to connect deeply with others. When you are fully present in your abdomen, you exude a grounded, authentic energy that others can feel. This kind of presence is magnetic and can significantly enhance your interactions and relationships. By consistently bringing your awareness to your abdomen and immersing yourself in the sensations there, you cultivate a deeper connection with yourself. This self-connection, in turn, enhances your ability to connect with others on a more profound level, making your presence not just attractive, but deeply resonant.

Optimal Care for Body and Mind

There is no way around the fact that people are attracted to others who are physically attractive. We cannot change the fact that we all age over time, although there is a lot we can do to mitigate the aging process so that we age more gracefully and look and feel a lot better. Far too many people let themselves go because they're not getting much, if any, exercise. They get into absolutely horrible shape and are therefore not that appealing to look at. It's important for us to exercise—play sports, do yoga, work out, go for walks—do whatever it takes to stay in the best possible shape. The better you look physically, the better you're going to feel about yourself, and the more other people are going to be attracted to you.

Go into almost any supermarket here in the United States, and you'll find aisle after aisle of processed foods loaded with refined sugar and all kinds of chemical additives. These foods are devitalized, deadened, and lacking in nutritional value, contributing to stagnation in people's bodies, obesity, heart disease, stroke, and a range of other health-related issues, while aging them much faster. It amazes me that people eat this garbage. And yet, in many ways, it's a reflection of the level of consciousness—or more accurately, the lack thereof.

It's critically important to be eating the healthiest, nutrient-rich foods available. Nutrient-rich foods make your body more vital, alive and youthful. Raw fruits and vegetables contain added nutrients and help cleanse your body of toxins, giving you that radiant glow.

Adequate sleep is essential for maintaining high energy levels and a positive demeanor. When you are sleep-deprived, you are likely to feel tired, irritable, and disconnected. On the other hand, being well-rested allows you to be more present, engaged, and clear-minded. This mental and emotional clarity enhances your overall presence, making you more attractive.

Spending Time Outdoors

Many of us spend so much time indoors, behind the screens of our computers, scrolling or consuming other digital media. Our sedentary lifestyle and constant exposure to screens can leave us feeling disconnected and sluggish. Spending time in forests, grasslands, mountains, or near bodies of water allows us to decompress. The Earth is healing, and being in natural settings revitalizes us, nourishing our bodies, diffusing distressing emotions, and enhancing our mental clarity and overall well-being.

Doing What You Truly Love to do

If you're spending time with people you don't like or working at a job you hate, it's going to stress you out and evoke all kinds of uncomfortable feelings. All this stress and distressing emotions will have a negative impact on your presence, making you less vibrant and engaged. It's going to leave you feeling drained, irritable, and disconnected, which can create barriers between you and others. When you're not aligned with what you truly enjoy, it shows in your body language, energy, and overall demeanor.

Conversely, the more you do what you truly love, the more you'll enjoy life. The happiness and fulfillment that come from pursuing your passions will emanate from you, creating an attractive presence that naturally draws others to you. Pursuing your passions helps you stay present, engaged in the moment, and connected to your inner self. This connection enhances your ability to form meaningful relationships and engage deeply with others. You become more resilient and more capable of handling life's challenges, which has a profound impact on how others perceive and interact with you.

Authenticity and the Mirror Effect

Even as you heal and become a more capable embodiment of your authentic self, it doesn't mean that everyone is going to find you more attractive. Not everyone is going to resonate with you. Sometimes it's just not a good match. Some people may find you intimidating because, as your increased presence begins to act as a mirror, you'll reflect back to them those aspects of themselves or issues that they're not willing to face.

As you grow and become more aligned with your true self, your energy and presence can become quite powerful. This newfound presence can have a profound impact on those around you. People who are comfortable with their own growth and self-awareness, with whom you resonate, will likely be drawn to you, finding inspiration and encouragement in your authenticity. They will appreciate the genuine connection and the depth you bring to your interactions.

However, not everyone is at the same stage of their journey. Some individuals might find your presence challenging or even threatening. Your authenticity and the clarity with which you now navigate your life can highlight the areas in their own lives where they are not being true to themselves. This reflection can be uncomfortable and may cause them to feel exposed or vulnerable. Instead of seeing the potential for their own growth, they might perceive you as a source of discomfort and choose to distance themselves.

It's important to understand that this reaction is not a reflection of your worth or the value of your journey. Rather, it is a sign that your presence is having a significant impact. People who are not ready to face their own issues might feel defensive or retreat from the authenticity that you now embody. Your growth and healing can stir up unresolved emotions and insecurities in others, making them confront parts of themselves that they have been avoiding.

This dynamic is a natural part of personal growth and the evolution of relationships. While it can be disheartening to see people pull away, it also serves as a filter, bringing those who are truly aligned with your presence closer and allowing for deeper, more meaningful connections. Embracing this aspect of your journey means accepting that not everyone is going to resonate with your true self, but those who do will appreciate and value you even more for it.

Bridging the Gaps

When we shut down emotionally, there's a flatness, a disconnect. When we're holding deep emotional wounds, there are gaps in our consciousness. As we heal these wounds, we bridge these gaps within ourselves and with others. Emotion acts like a conduction fluid, connecting the various aspects of ourselves and also facilitating connection between us and other individuals.

As we face our issues head-on and heal our deep emotional wounds, we begin to feel better within ourselves. We become more resilient. There’s a lightness that emerges, making us more easy-going, relaxed, and capable of letting go. As we work through the pain, sadness, and grief, we develop greater empathy and compassion, along with a comforting presence that emanates from within. As a result, we cultivate a presence that not only attracts others but also helps them heal.

Transforming Heartache: Increasing Your Capacity to Love and Be Loved

At the age of twenty, I began to train with Horace Daukei, one of the last surviving traditional doctors (medicine men) among the Kiowa Indian Tribe. Horace would transmit portions of his own healing gifts to me and then have me go on the vision quest in order to earn the right to work with these gifts of healing. The vision quest is a traditional healing practice that involves fasting alone in the mountains for four days and nights without food or water.

The medicine Horace transmitted to me began to awaken in my mid-twenties as I started working with people. It was in many ways like pouring hydrogen peroxide into an infected wound. I wanted so much to have someone in my life that I could love and be loved by, yet I found myself reenacting the traumas of my childhood and adolescence. Despite this, I was determined to do whatever it took to heal. At thirty, I began to feel the pull to return to the Wichita Mountains to go on the vision quest.

At times during the vision quest, I could feel a powerful presence descending into my body. As that happened, I began to relive the traumas of my childhood and adolescence and the reenactments that were occurring at that time in my attempts to form relationships. I experienced all the vivid sensory impressions and emotions I had held within my body for all these years. I could feel myself digesting these lived experiences and transmuting the highly charged emotions attached to them. I also felt this presence working within me to build an entirely new foundation.

As a result of this transformation facilitated by the combination of intensive daily practice, therapeutic interventions and the vision quest, I began to attract healthier companions and co-create more meaningful and deeply fulfilling relationships.

Having trained with a traditional Native American doctor, I work as a conduit. The same kind of presence that I experience during the vision quest works through me to facilitate the healing of the physical body and the deep emotional wounds within others. People often reach out to me while in the midst of a breakup, divorce, or after being ghosted, or struggling with patterns of abandonment and unrequited love. As the sadness, grief, and hurt are transformed into fuel for growth, they become much lighter, developing warmth and a radiant presence. Those who have struggled with disastrous relationships with men or women that have caused them enormous pain have been able to let go of their unhealthy attachments. I see many of these same individuals truly thrive as they attract much healthier companions with whom they truly resonate, forming lasting and deeply loving connections.

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